What if the people you care about are not ready to love you? What if they say they love you but they only need you in their lives to make their lives easier or more pleasant? What if they don't even respect you and show you kindness? What if they shame you and judge you? What if they are trying to change you to conform into their own idea of who you should be? What if they are making you feel unworthy?
Letting go of people who mean the world to us is probably the most difficult to thing to do…Why?
Because our intentions stem from love, we feel the need to show compassion and kindness.
Because we made a vow, we feel obliged to stay faithful and keep our promises.
Because we have invested so much time and energy, it would be a shame to just give it all up.
Because we are afraid to be judged and to appear like we've failed, we push ourselves to the limit and power through.
Because we think people change, and so we wait.
Because we tell ourselves it is the right thing to do, even when our soul says otherwise.
We all have been taught that being selfish is wrong, and so we do the opposite and try to give, and give, and give until we have nothing left to give anymore. But what happens when we keep up with the idea that we are selfless human beings, and we feel compelled to keep giving even when our cup is obviously depleted or empty?
When we give away our time and energy and have people live rent-free in our heads, let people use us emotionally, and physically to the point of draining us out, we endanger our very own well being. We get depressed, and we question our worthiness. We feel a lot of emotions and yet we either suppress them and keep doing what we do, transmute the negative emotions into a physical illness, or we blow up in anger with intentions of getting revenge.
But when we are ready to live our lives in joy, remain in a positive vibration, and are willing to heal ourselves, we do what's best for us first. We don't mind if people deemed us selfish because we understand that we need to take care of ourselves first. When we are ready, we live on purpose by regulating our emotions, going within, and consciously choosing our thoughts, actions and reactions. We learn to detach from people's expectations and judgments. We strive to look within for answers and not from our external world.
When we finally understand that we are worthy, that we are enough, there is no more need to be co-depended with anything or anyone. We understand that people who are not aligned to our energies will either go away and leave us or we end up leaving them.
It's not a matter of failing in life. It's not a form of escapism. It doesn’t mean we need to change who we are or expect others to change. It just means other people are just not ready to join us or accompany us in our journey; and we are no longer willing to join them in theirs, and so we shift…
The saying that "Birds of the same feather flock together" and "Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are" are quite true because we hang out with people of the same vibrations. No matter if it's of high vibrations or low, we instinctively stick to those who resonate and understand us.
The mere fact that we all evolve, simply means that people will come in and out of our lives. Some stay for the long haul, while others just stay for a few months, years or even decades, and then they move on. We learn lessons from each other, and when the lessons have been learned, we meet new people who may either be another teacher or student in this life time.
The important thing is for us to allow ourselves to be with people who reciprocate our love, respect and commitment. When we do this, we are doing ourselves a wonderful service because we are nourishing our minds, bodies and souls. Meanwhile, when we keep chasing love and friendships at the wrong places, or staying in an unhealthy relationship whether it is a platonic or a romantic one, we deprive ourselves of the possibility of meeting and making a connection with someone more aligned to our souls or more suited for us.
Perhaps we can stop showing up when we are not wanted. We can stop trying so hard, and focus on ourselves for a change. Definitely save our time and energies to those who are truly deserving, by putting health boundaries up. So what if others deemed us selfish? Just shrug it off and move on, for we must love ourselves first. Remember our worth, and value ourselves and other people with the same vibration will be drawn to our energies.
Perhaps when we hit too many road blocks in life, we can take a pause and re-group, maybe ask ourselves if there's a different road or a better choice if what we've been pursing is not quite working for us at the moment.
Perhaps if we learn to sit still and look within, know what it is that we truly want. And without using any labels, or the many different hats that we wear, we ask the question: Who am I at the very core? When we get to know who we truly are, and understand what it is that we really wanted, we can make better choices. When we can distinguish if what we have is love or attachment, clarity sinks in.
I bet there is no argument that we, as humans, think. And boy, do we think a lot! Our minds can run 100 miles per hour and we still couldn't figure out and straighten our lives. But what not many realize is that we, as souls, know. At our very core, our souls know what we want, and what's best for us, and when we learn to listen to our soul's voice, we are geared towards the right direction, and everything falls into place.
And it's not to say that we will never encounter challenges or problems ever again, for we will, after all we are here to learn lessons from each other. But aligning ourselves in mind, body and spirit will allow us to:
be better equipped when these challenges arise. We will be ready to face all life's hiccups with a higher and positive vibration, that we are able to bounce back faster.
attract the same energies as we give. The Law of Attraction is real, and we will get to witness how easy it is to manifest what we want when we are living in a higher and positive vibration than we were in the past.
in a bigger scale, help our planet by emitting love and light; by sharing our time, gifts and blessing, and inspiring one another.
So I dare you to pause, try a little introspection, and be in a meditative state. Listen to your soul, and you will not only learn a lot about yourself, but you will learn to love yourself more. And if people deemed you selfish, shrug it off, and hopefully, they, too will eventually learn to love themselves. But for now, do you. 💖
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